It has taken a few days for me even to get around to clearing up the mess concerning my Intense Debate account. I got busy with other matters, and eventually something wonderful occurred to me. I simply don’t care what homophobic religious whackjobs think. They don’t know what they’re talking about anyway, so what they say really doesn’t matter
They are preaching to the choir. In the entire nearly fifteen years that I’ve been out as a lesbian, not one of these people has said anything even remotely original. They just keep repeating the same, tired, discredited things, time and time and time again.
Because they have nothing to add to the discussion except things that have been thoroughly discredited, and because at this point they are merely displaying their own ignorance, nasty-mindedness and mean-spiritedness, nobody listens to them anymore — except for people who already agree with them. These people’s minds will probably not be changed no matter what.
One of the most important lessons I’ve come to learn, since I’ve been out, is that most honest, fair-minded, decent people — people of genuine goodwill — are accepting of me. Those who aren’t are, almost without exception, self-centered, egocentric, arrogant jerks. Some of them may seem kind-hearted, but the mask usually slips away pretty quickly when they are in a position to show who they really are.
I don’t care whether they accept my “lifestyle” — whatever they imagine that to be — or not. I expect them to behave like decent human beings and show at least a baseline level of respect for me as a fellow member of the human race. If they cannot even do that much, then they are not worth bothering with. They are a total waste of time, and life is simply too short to worry about what they think.
I am now determined to keep such people out of power. I have no desire to take away from them the power to live their own lives they way they choose. But those among them who are addicted to the fantasy that they may rule over others must be kept from enacting that fantasy.
I’m not going to do that by getting into flame-war arguments with them on blog post commentary threads. My posts themselves make my convictions clear enough. Not surprisingly, many of my critics show that they don’t even bother to read them.
Again, I choose not to waste my precious time. I insist upon using it wisely. God has blessed me with an increasing number of opportunities for expressing myself. None of my critics will even get to first base in keeping me from doing so.